First off....
HELLO 100 FOLLOWERS!
i never thought this day would arrive!
at least not this fast. i thought i might hit that mark in like 1-2 years
so hello new friends!
I feel like i need to do something special
but i dont know what!
maybe a giveaway?? any ideas??
with blogger being down, on top of me being behind on blogging.. i have alot of catching up to do!
Ok, back to my devil child ;)
if that aint a guilty face, i dont know what is...
Braylee is LOVING to push my buttons lately. She KNOWS when she isnt supposed to be doing something. Before she even does it she'll look at me, and SLOOOOWLY start doing what she isnt supposed to be doing. Then ill say "no no Braylee" and she'll give me this sly little mischief smile and keep doing it! Or she'll yell at me "NO MOM!" or "STOP IT" and keep doing what she is doing! Little ert! (ert is code for poop. We try not to use choice language around her. try being the key word)
Now this is the dilemma i am running in to. Now im not saying this is bad, everyone parents differently. And im NOT saying i never have either. But i dont like to spank, or slap her hand, or anything physical. I want to be able to TELL her no and have her listen. Or ASK her to stop what she is doing. Physical intervention (even if its just me taking her off the table etc) is my last resort. I would SO much rather be able to just ask "please get off the table" and have her listen.
Well we are struggling with this. She LIKES to push her limits. She LIKES to test her boundaries!
Here is a real scenario.. that i took pictures throughout lol
"Braylee, please dont climb on the back of the couch hunnie" "please leave the blinds alone too"
(we struggle with the blind thing ALL day!)
"Braaaaayleeeeee.... leave the blinds alone... (she pulls on them)" "Thank you sweety" "wait, no.. Braylee, leave the blinds alone... "
"uh....yea dont eat the string either..." (please note her mischievous looks on her face)
"Braylee you are REALLY getting on my nerves!"
(as she runs to the other side of the couch to pout..fakely might i add. i love her little fake pout/cry)
in this picture i am trying to explain that she needs to listen to mommy and be a good girl. She is CLEARLY ignoring me. (shoot self in head lol.) in one ear, out the other.
"Braylee for real?? You know i dont like you climbing on the back of the couch..remember when you fell and got hurt?? What is your deal today child??"
aaaaaaaand.... we are back to the string.
eff.
Any advice here??
5 comments :
Omg, boy can I relate to you. I actually broke down today and cried because I felt like my boys were purposely trying to piss me off. Lol. I love that line, "what is your deal, child?" I say that about a zillion times a day.
Anyway, yeah, we should trade sponsorship. I will get your button up tomorrow.
Also, I should have my etsy shop open by Monday so I could host a giveaway for you.
First, congrats on hitting the 100 mark!! I hear you...it's hard for me to imagine that day as well.
My husband and I try to use physical intervention as a last resort as well...but we use time-out when he needs it. Another discipline tool that we try is taking away his favorite toy (which obviously wouldn't work if Braylee doesn't have a special something that she carries around with her the way my child does). Something that I have heard that sounds like a GREAT idea but that we haven't used ourselves because my husband happens to not agree with me on it, (and i think this would really work well for a girl) is use a chart-sticker system for actually rewarding the absence of bad behavior. For instance, you could give her a sticker to put on her chart if she makes it all day until lunchtime without messing with the blinds. You could put up the chart and show her the stickers and tell her that if she doesn't play with the blinds or climb on the couch (and remind her that she isn't supposed to do those things) then she will get a sticker. But if she does it...when the time period that you allotted is up, you can tell her that you're sorry but she can't have a sticker today because she climbed on the couch after you asked her not to. Sound like a good idea?? Good luck, I know they are definitely a handful at this age!
I believe in spanking. My daughter is two and we have used physical discipline from an early age, but I respect people who don't. Your child is not my child and visa versa, so I always try to respect other peoples choices when it comes to THEIR children. With that said, I am sorry you are having such a rough time. Toddlers are ornery...period. They know how to push our buttons and take us to the limits. I turn to Focus on the Family when I need advice or help with parenting. I found this article:
http://family.custhelp.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/25933/related/1/session/L2F2LzEvdGltZS8xMzA1NDY0MTk2L3NpZC9iMTZ5ZSp0aw%3D%3D
and it seemed like it might apply to you in your dilemma. I hope it helps. And please know that everything in childhood is a phase, hopefully she'll eventually quit pushing your buttons and move onto something else! :) *hugs*
Ha! I'd love to give you some advice! I have a just-turned-three year old is definitely in the worst of the age stage right now! And I swear, the smarter they are, the harder they push! Not much works right now, other than time. I don't like to spank either, but I will physically remove her from somewhere and put her in her room or in time-out (not that it really works). Usually I just keep reinforcing what I want to get across - be persistant, so she knows what she is doing wrong. Eventually, it will get better.....I hope! Good luck! If you come up with a genious idea, let me know! Thanks for the follow at Jessica, The Mom. Following back!
thanks for the advice guys! we try counting, time outs, the works, and i think counting is working the best. @ashley, trust me i spank too. im not totally against it. i just use that as a last resort lol. and it seems to be the method that works the best which i HATE that. but what can you do. ill do a repost on this on what things are working. you are all the best :)
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