SAHM=Stay At Home Mom
i need everyone's opinion!
ill throw in some random pics for fun. They dont apply to this post. FYI lol.
I've been thinking ALOT lately about taking the plunge and quitting my job. Our goal is for me to eventually be a stay at home mom. i currently only work 2 days a week and only bring in about $400-$450 a month. And really all my checks are used for is one car payment which is like $240 ish? But even then, its mostly play money or our "cushion" as we like to call it for when Jeff's checks are a little shorter than normal. But lately my job is just getting worse and worse. They treat their employees like DIRT, almost everyone is quitting or stepping down, i swear every time i go into work, there is something new to make my life more difficult. It started with they just up and changed my schedule without my consent. I tried to fight it but didnt get very far. So i had to start randomly alternating Saturdays which made Jeff have to quit his summer saturday job. How is that right? How can a company say, "oh hey, by the way, you have to work saturdays now. Oh you have a kid and dont have a babysitter on Saturdays? Oh you have a second job that you do on Saturdays alot (photography). Well i guess if you dont show up you'll just loose your job. We dont care about you". I mean really? I have random meetings during the months that i have to drive 30 miles to take Braylee to my mom, then 30 miles back to my meeting, then 30 miles back to pick of Bray, to come 30 miles home. The latest thing is we now have to clock out for our 30 min lunches (i work at a nursing home and before we could just eat dinner with the residents and assist them with dinner). Which means i have to stay 30 min later and work till 9:30pm when Jeff goes to bed at 8pm and sometimes Braylee doesnt go right down for bed. I mean my job is just REALLY wearing on me and its making me depressed. Also with jeff working such long days during the summer i hardly see him. So our relationship gets stressed.
Then there is my photography. I have such a PASSION for it and it makes me happy. I dont know what it is, but it just comes naturally and i have the DRIVE to pursue it further. But ive had to turn down and postpone to many oportunities due to having to work. And my editing takes longer to get done when i work. I always said i never want to RELY on the money i make from photography. But its starting to look like a possibility.
Anyone have any opinions? Experience stories? Words of advice? Anything is helpful :)
ps.... isnt that baby doll funny?!
It trips everyone out when they see it and mistake it for a real baby.
7 comments :
I think that you need to do what your heart is telling you. If you aren't truly happy with your job, and you think that you financially can be without it, then stay at home with your baby!!! And pursue your photography! you're great at what you do. I think you should go for it. Plus, then you get 100% time with Braylee!
even though i got to work from home when Rylin was born i HATED my job. it was like the procedures changed every single week and it was stressing me out sooooo bad! luckily i got laid off the end of February. I really regret not quitting sooner and spending the first 3 months of Rylins life soooo stressed out. I lost over $1.5k a month in income but omg it is so worth it for me! I find that if i just let go of the things that stress me out. something better always works out!
both of your babies are just precious!! So, I became a stay at home mom when my first was 7 months old. The strain of juggling it all just became too hard for me though to be honest...there are many days now that I think are far harder, more monotonous, boring than any work day I ever had....but, I wouldn't trade it other than maybe wishing for a couple little breaks each week to do me things. I think you should go for it! Take the plunge and step into the SAHM role and pursue photography! I will say that I too rely on photography for a little side money but, unfortunately it is very unpredicatable and unsteady as income for me at this point anyways but, it is a blessing when I get to go out for a session without my kiddo for some me time! You can do it though!! Go for it!!
I was a SAHM for 2.5 years and recently went back to work. It was the hardest decision for me to make but it came down to us needing me to go in order to pay our bills. If we could get by I would still be a SAHM.
Now that I am back to work I see how much Jake enjoys being at daycare with other kids and how much I love the adult interaction.
If you do not like your job and it is stressing you out and you don't really have to work I say go for it!! It will give you more time to focus on your kids and photography. Good luck girl with what ever decision you make.
from what you've said, it sounds like you need to pursue photography and stay at home with those precious little ones! its my belief that women, if possible, should try to stay at home with their kiddos when they are leetle and do everything they can do be able to do that. even if it means, living on a little less, selling a car, etc. i believe you'll be blessed for doing it and the Lord will provide for you and your family. and you'll also be blessed in so many other ways. i've been a SAHM for 10 years now. its not the "glam" life:) and i don't get the social interaction with adults during the day that working moms do. but its worth it. and i have plenty of girls night outs to make up for it!:) good luck with whatever you decide!!
I'd quite tomorrow if I were you!
Or yesterday:)
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